Insecure Man Expects His Fiance To Remove The Tattoo She Has In Honor Of Her Late Husband And Son

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May 3, 2022 6:00 PM EDT

Becoming a widow in a tragic, unimaginable experience. Losing someone you thought would be there forever is so jarring nobody every recovers fully from it. We understand why it would be hard for a widow to open their heart up after losing the person that was most dear in their life. In today's 'Am I the A$$hole?' post, a widow told us about how she lost her husband and son in a boating accident, and got a tattoo in their honor once she was able to recover. Three years after the accident, she met another man who eventually proposed after a year. He knew about her traumatic history, and was very supportive while they were dating. Once they were engaged, however, he asked her how she was intending on getting the tattoo removed now that he was in her life. Who TF says something like that?! As much as we want OP to be happy, this guy sounds like bad news. Scroll down for all the details. 

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    Font - Posted by u/iLoveMnMs33 12 hours ago 2736 AITA for refusing to have my tattoo removed even if it makes my future husband uncomfortable and insecure?
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    After hearing why she has the tattoo, we were all immediately on her side. 

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    Font - I was a widow for 3 years before I met my fiancé (Julius). I lost my husband and 4 year old son on a boating accident. When I got back on my feet after losing them, I had their names tattooed on my chest. Nothing grand, it's just their names in cursive and two hearts.
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    This was a tough read. 

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    Font - When I met Julius I told him about my past. Including my depression and how I had to move back to my parents' and depended on them for years. He was very understanding and after over a year of dating, he proposed. Yesterday,
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    Font - while I was getting out of the shower, Julius asked me when I plan to have my tattoo removed. He said he knows someone who's really good and he could give us a discount. This was the first time he mentioned something like this to me so I wasn't sure how to respond. I just told him I have no plans of having my tattoo removed. Later that
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  • 05
    Font - day, during dinner he asked me again and I told him the same thing. He said we're about to get married and it's time for me to move on. I told him I have already moved on. He said it's hardly moving on when I still have their names on my chest, that he can see every time we're intimate. He said it makes him uncomfortable and
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  • 06
    Font - insecure of my love love for him because it looks like I can't let go of my past. He's been giving me the cold shoulder since. I told my mom about what happened and she told me she understands how Julius feels. AITA?
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    Font - Elizis 12 hr. ago edited 12 hr. ago Pooperintendant [50] NTA: if he loves you he'd understand how much those two meant to you. If he truly loved you he would know that he can't replace them in your heart, but he can be apart of that heart. If he loved you he'd understand, but he's making all about himself. So does he love you? Should you marry him?
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    Font - @ 5³ + Cavane4 Asshole Enthusiast [8] ago ΝΤΑ It takes some champion level insecurity to feel threatened by someone's late husband AND CHILD. How callous can you get? He needs to love and accept all of who you are, not cut away or hide the parts he'd rather not see.
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    Font - PattersonsOlady. 12 hr. ago Colo-rectal Surgeon [36] NTA Your fiancé isn't ready to marry a widow. Marrying a widow is a different experience, and he has to be someone who understands that can move on, but that your love lives on in your heart.
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    Font - Ema630 12 hr. ago Asshole Aficionado [19]] Omg, NTA!!! WTH is wrong with your fiance?!??! I swear, some people think their love has magical powers that completely erases the past of their partner.
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    Font - avilak90 11 hr. ago NTA. He's had no problem being intimate with you until now, and he's had plenty of time to bring up tattoo removal. He thinks because he proposed he gets to rewrite your history?
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    Font - Marvel0517 12 hr. ago NTA. I think it was bad to ask you once, twice was really shitty. He needs to respect your wishes. Sorry for your loss OP.
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